‘When I was pregnant I imagined what life would be like with a baby and I was sure I would know what to do – but I was wrong it wasn’t like I thought and I didn’t know what to do. My daughter had colic and she cried a lot, which in turn meant I cried a lot. She was a terrible sleeper so I barely slept and she did not like to be put down at all which meant I had her in my arms almost always. I worried there was something wrong, the doctors said there wasn’t but I didn’t know how to stop it. I loved my new born so much but I couldn’t soothe her and I didn’t know why. My biggest worry, and it sounds silly now, was that people wouldn’t like her, that they wouldn’t want her around, but this was such a real fear for me and I always felt upset about it. Kate had been my NCT instructor and we met for a reunion when my daughter was 12 weeks old. My baby screamed through the event whilst all the other babies seemed calm and serene. I think Kate knew I needed some one, and Kate was perfect. She visited me at home, she made me cups of tea and talked to me, she listened as I talked and she hugged me when I cried. But most important to me was that she looked at my daughter like the perfect little person she was. Although these things may seem small they were everything to me at the time. I will never forget Kate’s help, and for knowing what I needed even when I didn’t. She is the perfect doula.’ Sarah baby born May 2016.
I first meet Kate when she was our NCT teacher. She was an incredible source of information, presented in a friendly and approachable way. Kate has been a continued support after my less than perfect birth experience. She provided lots of emotional and practical help; her experience in advising me on how to access my notes, directing me towards help for breastfeeding issues, visiting to help with the baby so I could have meal breaks and even accompanying me on a dog walk so I made it out of the house! Kate is warm, compassionate and practical, exactly what I needed as a first time mum. Gail, baby born June 2017′
Everything I was doing was for the baby, finding little time to do things like washing my hair or finishing a cup of tea. I just needed someone to say it’s okay! I needed someone to say ‘slow down, create opportunities for yourself’ and in the end I realised that looking after myself was just as important as looking after my new baby. Having Kate in my home provided that support, space and time for me to come to terms with the changes that were happening to me and around me and build my resilience as a parent.